By Lea Friese-Haben
AT LEAST, GO DIGITAL
Dear Coach Lea,
I am about six months into yet another man who says he doesn’t believe in marriage or perhaps he is just not ready. He really can’t give me a straight answer. I am 32 and would like to be married and starting a family soon. I am so upset and just don’t know what to do. My biological clock is ticking and I am scared to death of wasting a few more years. What should I do?
Dear Ticking Clock,
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the men that do protest do eventually get married—however, it won’t be to you. Your biological clock may be ticking so loud that he has lost interest. I would suggest that you cut your losses and find someone who is more into you and into the possibility of marriage with you. Hang in there and let me know what happens.
I have gone out a few times with a great guy. I really like him—we just had our fourth date and finally had sex. The problem is that he never calls me until the last minute, and the other problem is that he works so much. His travel schedule is so crazy that I can go for a week or two without hearing from him. He claims he is so busy and that he simply forgets to call me.
If he really wanted to see you, he would make time. Guys that say they are too busy to see you are busy—just not with you. I have had men call me from the airport, taxis, and even from a hospital bed (my husband after shoulder surgery). I realize men get busy, but if they care, they will find the time! N-E-X-T!
I am a former client and just wanted to drop you a line. I am the guy who balked at having professional pictures taken. Well, I finally called your photographer (and he did do a great job). I have been dating online for about three years with no success. I really didn’t know that a profile and picture could make such a difference. Thanks to your guidance, I have never had so many women contact me or respond to me online. I found one woman I really like—and will let you know how that goes. Thanks again—it’s good to finally be excited about someone again.
I am so glad that you finally got those pictures! I am happy as always to help. Good job, and let me know how things progress.
Hugs back at you,